Choosing the right mentor can save you many years of trying to figure things out by yourself. In this podcast, I go deep into the definition of a real mentor, how I found my mentors, what are the 10 attributes of real mentors and what must be the ideal mentor-mentee relationship.

In this podcast, you will learn the following:

What is the definition of a true mentor?
How I found my mentors?
The top 10 attributes of true mentors?
Can you have many mentors or not?
Best way to have a mentor-mentee relationship?
How to become an impactful digital mentor?

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    25 replies to "How To Find A Mentor That Gets You Results"

    • Rekha Bhavnani

      Hi sid,
      10 Attributes to look for along with congruence are
      1. If ur mentor is an implementor by walking the talk
      2. Is a good listener with relevant responses
      3. Is a continuous learner
      4. Is a practitioner, practices what is preached
      5. Is non judgemental about caste creed believes etc I.e man made difference
      6. Is a Solution provider
      7. Is a good mentee
      8. Has proven models/systems of their own
      9. I’d handson in their core topic
      10. Is of a collaborative mindset

    • Tapan Reang

      Its very important & useful Sidz Sir, its very inspiring though may be you are suffering from cold you did this very important & imactful recording for us….thanks a lot….

      • Siddharth Rajsekar

        Thanks a ton, Tapan! Glad to serve you πŸ™‚

        • Diliip

          Thanks for this amazing super clear clarity podcast on Mentorship.
          Mentor – is someone who helps you make progress towards whatever goal you want to achieve.

          Three mentors whom you follow had comman points in terms of vision , values, trades & skills apart from alignment with personal values of Family first, spiritually grounded and down to earth with exceptional systems in place doing the work and not being flashy and fame focussed.

          10 attributes to look for –

          (1) Is your trainer a implementor thru skills they have tried and tested
          (2) They are very good listeners of market place able to respond as per market needs
          (3) They commit to life long learning
          (4) They are practitioners like have a deeper level of applying as done by people who are into sadhana meditation or any other spiritual practice. They follow a discipline and routine
          (5) They are non judgmental, open minded as the community comprises people from different geogrphies culture etc..
          (6) They are solution providers
          (7) They are good mentees themselves. They attribute lot of their skills to their mentors and share it with their mentees .
          (8) They have developed a proven tested system on their own
          (9) They are hands on in their topic of specialization
          (10) They have collaborative spirit and not competitive spirit. Can be known by observing if they put other players in similar space down by some tactic which is not correct.

          The mentor who has the above 10 qualities always keeping the best interest of Students in mind can show a transformational path to the mentees provided they take responsibility for their growth by surrendering to the process , system, by being open, by asking genuine questions and be an implementer by taking it to the finish line.

          Thanks sidz for this wonderful podcast helping us to rewire ourselves in this journey.

          Best regards
          Diliip

    • Thankappan Genardanan

      Yes, correct. The mentor becomes a true mentor when he can do the above services sincerely and devotionally. Because the future of one’s life is in his hands.

    • Inder jeet Singh ubhi

      Very useful information for choosing a mentor who is implementer and very practical, understandable the pain points of audience and have high qualities as a person, while taking the value of knowledge of mentor, the person should surrender to him to get real knowledge, if the person wants to shift the mentor, he can do, first complete all the assignment if the mentor and take to the finish line and after achieve the target, if need arises, then go the another mentor who he or she Aline with. A person can have many mentor in his life, but be sure that first completed the task and then see the another. And attribute mention is really amazing

    • Meenu Chaurasiya

      #ILHFAMILY #ILHDEEPLEARNER
      #YOUCANCOACH

      WHO IS MENTOR
      ..IS A GUIDE
      TEACHER
      COACH

      SOMEBODY WHO CAN MAKE YOU PROGRESS ….THEY ARE BEST AT SIMPLYFING

      INVESTED 12 LAKHS FOR PERSONAL GROWTH …

      CAN ALLIGN WITH HIS
      VISION
      VALUE
      TRADE AND SKILL
      AND LIFESTYLE

      YOU WANT TO BECOME LIKE THEM. ….
      THEY ARE YOUR ROLE MODEL….

      GOT TO BUILD RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR MENTOR ….. SPENT TIME WITH THEM(WITH THEIR CONTENT )

      LET ME FOLLOW THIS MAN 100%….

      #BLAIRE…. VOICE
      #VICK… DIGITAL ECO SYSTEM
      #SAM…. CONSULTING GAME

      FAMILY FIRST …
      SPIRITUALLY GROUNDED….
      ALL CONTENT LEAD WITH VALUE ….
      LONG VIDEO ON VIDEO …..

      YOUR GROWTH IS YOUR RESPONSIBILTY ….

      1. IS YOUR MENTOR IN IMPLEMENTOR
      2. DO THEY HAVE SKILL SET
      3. ARE THEY ARE GOOD LISTENER
      4. IF THEY ARE LEARNER THEMSELF
      5. DO THEY HAVE SIGNATURE PRACTICE
      6. ARE THEY NON JUDGEMENTAL
      7. ARE THEY SOLUTION PROVIDER …
      8. ARE THEY GOOD MENTEE
      9. HAVE THEY DEVELOP PROVEN SYSTEM TO SOLVE SOME PROBLEM
      10.ARE THEY HANDS ON TOPICS THEY TEACH

      ***DO THEY HAVE COLLABORATIVE spirit or competition spirit…….

      Choose collaborative …..

      Yes you can have many mentor ….

      Better to follow one mentor ..one path …and take it to the finish line ….

      The role of mentor is always keep mentee interest in mind. …… Always improving life of there audience ….

      If you are mentee……
      You got to surrender to the process….
      Empty the cup ….
      Ask right question ….
      Implement the learning …
      Improve ….

      Thankyou … Gratitude ……..😍😍😍

    • Vinit Mehta

      #ILHFAMILY
      #ILHDEEPLEARNER

      How To Find The Right Mentor That Gets You Results

      YOUR GROWTH IS ALWAYS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY AND NOT YOUR TEACHER’S & MENTORS’S OR COACH

      Key takeaways
      1 – Choosing right mentor can save you years
      2 – top 10 attributes of a mentor
      3 – ideal mentor & mentee relationship

      Who is a Mentor
      A mentor is a Guide, Teacher, Coach
      Somebody who can make you Progress towards a goal, to hep you being stuck to unstuck
      mentors are best at simplifying

      Best Mentors for Sidz who transformed SID’S Life :

      1 – Blair Singer – Thought the difference between a trainer & Mentor(LEADER)
      Alignment with Vision
      Alignment with Values
      Alignment with traits & Skills
      Model the lifestyle of the Mentor

      2 – Vick Strizheus – Master of Digital ECO-SYSTEM
      Started as an affiliate for Vick
      How to work on building Digital Eco system

      3 – Sam Owens – Consulting.com
      Mechanics & Science of how the Brain works
      Monk like discipline
      Productivity

      Need to have Strong Core Personal Values this is the common trait among all the 3 Mentors

      Attributes you need to look for choosing the right Mentor

      1 – You Mentor needs to be an Implementer (Walk the Talk)
      2 – Very Good Listeners (Respond to Market if they are relevant)
      3 – Check if they are life long learners
      4 – Practitioners – Practice they follow no matter what
      5 – Are they Non-Judgmental
      6 – Solution Oriented instead of info providers
      7 – Someone who is a good Mentee
      8 – Develop Proven models & system on their own (No Copy Cat stuff)
      9 – Someone who is Hands on with the technology
      10 – Do they have a collaborative spirit OR Competitive spirit

      Using Authority with pure Intent for the benefit of the students (Tough Love)

      Can you have Many Mentors for ?
      When you start your journey you may have many but when you find someone whom you align the most and then you just follow the same mentor
      Learn from Many Mentors but follow only 1 Mentor for Implementation Process attest for 90 days so that you get tangible results

      Best Relationship Between Mentor & mentee Relationship

      Role of a Mentor – Keep always Mentee’s Interest in their mind

      Role of a Mentee – Surrender completely, Open Minded, Ask right Question, Implementing

      Thanks & Regards
      Vinit Mehta (VIN)

    • Vandana

      Sid, it was wonderful podcast. IN fact I was so confused about this from past few months and today in the morning I took a call to say NO to my existing relationship of Mentor and Mentee and was thinking from past two days whether decision is going to be right or not, but actually I evaluated most of the points which you have explained and decided to Exit.
      Thank you so much for this, really its very powerful pointers.
      I have not understood the Point 2 – Listeners …. Can you please simplify this point
      Thanks dear ….

      • Siddharth Rajsekar

        Thanks Vandana! Your feedback really made my day! Glad to serve you πŸ™‚

    • janardan Kar

      # ilhfamily # ilhdeeplearner
      22.11.21 FIND A MENTOR TO GET RESULT

      NEITHER COACH/ TEACHER/ MENTOR MAKE YOU SUCCESSFUL- MAKE YOU DEVELOPED/ RICH- BASICALLY, IT IS INDIVIDUAL’S RESPONSIBILITY- HIS DESIRE AND CONSISTENT PERSEVERANCE AFTER HIS SET GOAL.
      HE NEEDS TO SELECT A COACH/ TRAINER/ A MENTOR TO GUIDE HIM/DIRECT HIM/ COAX HIM/ CAJOLE HIM IN THE JOURNEY AND THE INDIVIDUAL NEED TO HAVE THE WILLINGNESS AND GRIT TO FOLLOW THE COACH/ MENTOR ALMOST BLINDLY TO GET FAST RESULT.
      THEN IT BECOMES MOST IMPORTANT TO EFFECTIVELY SELECT ONE WHO IS FIT TO ONE’S MENTOR. HOW TO DO THAT??? WHAT ARE THE POINTERS TO FIND ONE??? A VERY BIG RESPONSIBILITY…….

      MENTOR- QUALIFICATION
      WHO COULD HANDHOLD TO MAKE YOU PROGRESS, REMOVE OBSTACLES, SIMPLIFY THINGS FOR ONE TO UNDERSTAND CLEARLY- MAKES THE VISION CLEAR TO DRIVE AHEAD CONFIDENTLY ON THE PATH. HE SHOWS YOU THE MIRROR FIRST (CLEAN & CLEAR AUDITING OF ATTRIBUTES AND DIRECTING TO ENHANCE INHERENT STRENGTH AND ERASING/MASKING INHERENT WEAKNESSES)

      LOOK FOR
      WITH WHOM YOU ARE PERSONALLY CONGRUENT VALUE-WISE AND HE MEETS YOUR QUALIFICATIONS OF A MENTOR.
      MENTOR WHO IS NOT A SPEAKER BUT AN IMPLEMENTOR. IS HE AN IMPLEMENTOR? HAS HE/SHE WALKED THE TALK, AND CONGRUENT WITH THE CONCEPT HE TEACHES. HAS THE SKILL
      STRONG UNCOMPROMISING VALUE SYSTEM. SIMPLE, UNASSUMING LIFESTYLE.
      GOOD LISTENERS- HAVE THEIR EARS ON THE MARKET.
      Lifelong LEARNERS
      PRACTICE SOMETHING CONSISTENTLY. VERY DISCIPLINED IN THEIR PRACTICE.
      NONJUDGMENTAL- MAKES RAPPORT WITH MENTEE
      PROBLEM SOLVER.
      THEY REMAINED EXCELLENT MENTEES THEMSELVES
      THEY HAVE BUILT THEIR UNIQUE PROVEN SYSTEM AND METHODS.
      THEY ARE HANDS-ON – ON THEIR
      COLLABORATIVE THAN COMPETITIVE SPIRIT- NOT PUZZLED BY COMPETITION-THEY BELIEVE NO ONE COPY THEM EVEN THEY COPY THEIR CONTENT. THEY BELIEVE PEOPLE BUY PEOPLE BEFORE PURCHASING A PRODUCT ONE SELLS- TRUST ON PERSON BEFORE THE PRODUCT.

      ONE OR MANY-
      INITIALLY ONE HAS TO SHOP AROUND WITH HIS/HER SPECIFICATION/REQUIREMENTS TO FIND CLEAR PERSONAL CONGRUENCE, THEM FOLLOW HIS DIRECTIVES WITH FAITH AND TAKE THE LEAP.
      SUMMING UP
      BUT THEN ONE NEEDS MULTIPLE MENTORS ON THE PATH AS REQUIREMENTS ARE DYNAMIC AND NEED FOR SKILL CHANGES WITH TIME AND SITUATION. A BEE COLLECTS NECTAR FROM DIFFERENT FLOWERS WHICH GIVES HONEY THE ALL-ROUND QUALITY, THOUGH HE COLLECTS NECTAR FROM ONE FLOWER AT A TIME. THE ADMIXTURE OF NECTAR ASSIMILATED AND PROCESSED WITHIN THE BEE COMES OUT OF IT AS AMBROSIA- WHICH PEOPLE ENJOY MORE THAN THE BEE ITSELF. BEE DOES ITS DUTY INCESSANTLY IN COLLECTING NECTAR AND MAKING HONEY OUT OF IT.
      THE SPIDER ALSO SITS ON A FLOWER AND GETS POISON OUT OF IT- LIKEWISE, A ABLE MENTOR AS A MENTEE COLLECTS NECTAR FROM HIS/HER MENTORS AND MAKES THE AMBROSIA TO SERVE TO HIS/ HER MENTEES. THE CYCLE CONTINUES WITH TRUST, FAITH AND GRATITUDE AND GRACE- TRUST AND FAITH AND GRATITUDE OF MENTEE ON MENTOR AND GRACE OF MENTOR ON MENTEE. THAT IS THE RELATION/CONNECTION, THE SPIRITUAL CONNECT THE SYMBIOTIC RELATIONSHIP.

      MENTEE QUALITIES
      SELECT MENTOR/MENTORS WITH CLARITY AND CARE
      LISTEN, IMPLEMENT, LEAP WITH FAITH
      QUESTION, GET DOUBTS CLEARED, EXTRACT NECTAR
      CONSISTENTLY FOLLOW
      BE GRATEFUL TO GET GRACE- THAT IS THAT 1% WHICH MAKES THE GRADE- TAKE ONE TO PINNACLE. WITHOUT GRACE -BALANCE 99% DOES NOT TAKE YOU THERE- THE GOAL/ TOP/PINNACLE

      JANARDAN KAR

    • Vipul

      You Are Really Awesome Sidz!!!

      Its an Eye Opener Content for me. Your are Super Valuable in my eyes!!

      This shows your commitment towards Your students as I could sense that you have cold, you are not able to speak properly, still You have created a Podcast on my one question to You that how to select a Mentor for myself.

      My Major takeaways are –

      Teaches/Mentors/Coaches don’t make You Rich, Fit or Make you Learn.
      They can only teach you. You are Responsible for Your Own Growth.

      Mentor is one who is a Guide/Teacher/Coach, who helps you make progress towards Your Goals.

      Mentor is someone who helps you go from being stuck to unstuck.
      Mentors helps in Simplifying Things.

      10 Attributes to look for a Mentor so that They help You Achieve Your Goals

      1. Mentor is an Implementer by walking the talk. They Have Skill levels. They give quick results
      2. He is a good listener with relevant responses – (like Sidz)
      3. He is a Continuous Learner
      4. He is a Practitioner, Practices what he says, he does
      5. Are They Non Judgmental, Open Minded, Neutral. Only then Rapport is made
      6. He is a Solution Provider
      7. He is a Good Mentee themselves. Someone who has Mentors for themselves and who attributes to their mentors.
      8. He has Proven Models/Systems of Their Own.
      9. Who has hands on in their own topic
      10. Who has Collaborative Spirit

      Can We have many Mentors – Yes & No
      Yes in the beginning, once you are aligned with one your search stops there. Your different Mentors, Principle should be the same. Eventually you need to follow a single path and take it to the finish line.

      Mentor-Mentee Relationship

      Role of Mentor – Always keep the Mentee’s interest in mind. Mentor should think about the best interest for their students

      Qualities Of A Good Mentee –

      1. Surrender to the Process and System
      2. Empty the cup. Open up Your Mind to Grasp Learnings. Drop Your Ego
      3. Ask Right Questions and get things simplified for Your self
      4. Be an Implementer

      Thank You Sidz.

      Vipul

    • Varsha Marathe

      Hi Sidz,
      Thanks for great subject How to find Mentor? Really inspiring podcast
      following are my takeaways from your 29 min. session.
      1.Who is Mentor ?
      a. Guide – Gives direction
      b. Coach- gives reviews
      c. Teacher – gives more information to reach on correct path.
      Mentor means who helps to make you progress. Helping students stuck to unstuck.

      YOu have 3 Mentors as of today – You follow them after going through around 10, 15 different diffrent in your beginning stage . Following 3 are your Mentors
      1. Blair Singer
      2. Vick Strizheus( HIs Sir name is difficult)
      3. Sam Owens ( pl.correct me if wrong)

      Blare singer -You joined his 4 days event in 2016. He is leader in his industry , he has done self transformation. and you chose him to be your mentor.
      your learnings from him
      1. Aligned with his vision
      2. Aligned with his values
      3. Alligned with his skills
      BLAIR HELPED YOU FIND YOUR VOICE (LEADER)

      2 . Vicky – You started following his steps in 2018, You stood 9th in contest and went on Miami trip .
      a. Digital ecosystem – Automation , funnels. and how he is doing Multimillion dollar business. You started affiliate marketing his products. and you created deep relationship with him

      3. Sam Ovel- His company name is consulting .com ,.You learned from him discipline , being organised, and procutivity.

      Then you find common thread between all these 3 those are
      1. Familty priority
      2. Spiritual
      3. No fluff
      4. No flashy
      5. More focussed.
      6. Live with values.
      Blair has given you voice , Vick has given you ecosystem , you get disciplined from Sam.

      10 ATTRIBUTES TO FIND MENTOR
      1. IS your mentor implementor? – are the walking the talk or talking the walk
      2. They are very good listners , if they respond to Market place.
      3. Mentors should be learners all their life
      4. They are practitioners.- daily practise
      5. Non judgmental , they build rapo with all walks of people of life.
      6. They are great because they provide solutions. Tangible , Practicle solutions to the problem.
      7. Some are good Mentee – Mentor have to have mentee
      8. Create own proven system.
      9. Who has hands on in their topic
      10. collaborative spirit not competitive spirit. – Collaborative spirit is good.

      LAST BUT NOT THE LEAST
      Can you have Many mentors ?

      In the beginning – Yes
      Once you aligned fully – then stick to those .

    • Mohammed Rafiq

      #ILHFAMILY
      #ILHDEEPLEARNER

      Mentor – Mentee is an important element in the knowledge ecosystems. This is one thing that has been tested and proved effective and result oriented from the very early times.

      Simply defined -Mentor is some one who can help to make progress in mentees aspired area of interest. Not just by sharing chunks of knowledge but walk the talk of the challenges the mentee may encounter on the way to excellence.

      Three Mentors who had profound impact on Sid due their inherent qualities included
      1. Blair Singer – gave voice to the talent
      2. Vick Strizheus – gave power by solid systems
      3. Sam Ovens – Brought the glitter into the consulting skills

      The ten commandments of superb mentoring
      1. Implementer not just restricted to advisory talk
      2. Good listeners of market place – keenly grounded to the vibes of the market challenges
      3. Learners themselves – One who does not believe in being paragon of knowledge base
      4. Practitioners – into the mission of deeper implementation of the preached practices
      5. Non-judgmental – handle people from different background with open minded
      6. Solution provider – not just share trinkets of knowledge but provided workable and proven solution
      7. Himself mentee – strongly believe in the sacred mentor-mentee relationship, irrespective of the attainment of excellence always looks towards their mentor for advise
      8. Own systems – Have their signature systems that is time tested and proven
      9. Hands-on – Some one who believes in dirtying hands to master the skills. An expert in action not just a theorist
      10. Collaborator spirit – one who believes in collaboration to attend abundance rather than constraint due to scarcity mentality and see competition everywhere.

      “Teachers don’t make your learn
      Trainers don’t make you fit
      Coaches don’t make you rich
      At some point you will have to realize, that
      other people can help you, but growth is your responsibility”
      -Unknown Source

      Sid – This one podcast has enormous impact in giving me the push required to face the challenges from any quarters on my mission in hand. It would be my pleasure to look up to you for your mentoring whenever I see some dark patched and unexplored terrains. I am sure your guidance & mentorship will be a boon to me on the journey.

      • Siddharth Rajsekar

        Thanks Mohammed! Your feedback really made my day! Glad to serve you πŸ™‚

    • Vipul

      You Are Really Awesome Sidz!!!

      Its an Eye Opener Content for me. Your are Super Valuable in my eyes!!

      This shows your commitment towards Your students as I could sense that you have cold, you are not able to speak properly, still You have created a Podcast on my one question to You that how to select a Mentor for myself.

      My Major takeaways are –

      Teaches/Mentors/Coaches don’t make You Rich, Fit or Make you Learn.
      They can only teach you. You are Responsible for Your Own Growth.

      Mentor is one who is a Guide/Teacher/Coach, who helps you make progress towards Your Goals.

      Mentor is someone who helps you go from being stuck to unstuck.
      Mentors helps in Simplifying Things.

      10 Attributes to look for a Mentor so that They help You Achieve Your Goals

      1. Mentor is an Implementer by walking the talk. They Have Skill levels. They give quick results
      2. He is a good listener with relevant responses – (like Sidz)
      3. He is a Continuous Learner
      4. He is a Practitioner, Practices what he says, he does
      5. Are They Non Judgmental, Open Minded, Neutral. Only then Rapport is made
      6. He is a Solution Provider
      7. He is a Good Mentee themselves. Someone who has Mentors for themselves and who attributes to their mentors.
      8. He has Proven Models/Systems of Their Own.
      9. Who has hands on in their own topic
      10. Who has Collaborative Spirit

      Can We have many Mentors – Yes & No
      Yes in the beginning, once you are aligned with one your search stops there. Your different Mentors, Principle should be the same. Eventually you need to follow a single path and take it to the finish line.

      Mentor-Mentee Relationship

      Role of Mentor – Always keep the Mentee’s interest in mind. Mentor should think about the best interest for their students

      Qualities Of A Good Mentee –

      1. Surrender to the Process and System
      2. Empty the cup. Open up Your Mind to Grasp Learnings. Drop Your Ego
      3. Ask Right Questions and get things simplified for Your self
      4. Be an Implementer

      Thank You Sidz.

      Vipul

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