Have you ever been in a situation where you just kept working hard daily without any purpose? Did you feel that people and situations were just overpowering you?
That’s because you did not have the courage to say NO.
NO is an extremely powerful tool that some of the world’s biggest achievers use to make progress in their personal and professional lives.
In this podcast, I go deep into the 3 areas of life where you need to say NO:
- People
- Projects
- P**** (bonus tip)
By the time you are done with this 26-minute podcast, I will assure you that you will not be the same person again. I will be sharing some really practical and powerful concepts which can help you live a more purposeful and fulfilled life.
And everything starts by saying NO.
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65 replies to "How To Magically Achieve Massive Results By Saying “NO”"
Pleasure and pain.
Pleasing others is definitely a pain in my arse. And it’s vice versa. NO also means New Opportunity.
Thanks Dhruv!
Thank you. This personalised service is useful to the lazy ones like me, Sir.
your’s explanation in words hit straight to my heart it’s the unspoken truth.
Many times it happened to me that I couldn’t say No and then I sacrifice my desire to reach. Always dedicated to my family and dear ones to make them happy by saying Yes to most of the things. But I always keep my heart with sacrifices and sadness where I want to reach still I am struggling.
Now I want to live the life of my choice which I never get the chance in my family and professional life.
I live your Freedom Business model which can give me freedom in a long run.
One year before I started my journey to work online but now it’s a time to implement and take action.
When the results will come will be the happiest moment for me to start my freedom lifestyle without fear of losing money and losing a job.
Thanks Sidz for sharing good information in the podcast.
Awesome Dr.Fatima! This is just the beginning 🙂 More power to you!
Hey Sidz,
Thank you for those insightful tips and wisdom!
Thanks Karthik! Appreciate your feedback…
Absolutely resonates with my thoughts. Agree ???? “NO”is a powerful tool. I have slowly adapted to this power over the years. Very well deciphered Sidz. Power of “NO” is also a way that prevents being exploited.
Yes, absolutely! No gives you control
The power of “NO’. Many of us suffer due to not able to say NO and the worst part is that we don’t even realize how it is affecting our productivity and focus.
Sidz, thanks for sharing.
You’re welcome Sanjay! Glad you found this useful
#ILH Family: Hi Sidz, I hope you are doing well and safe with your loved ones.
I realise the mistake of mine which I am doing since childhood. Saying yes all the time is not good. I am trying to say no.
Thanks for this podcast. ????
Thanks Farhan!
Ultimately, it boils down to focus being the most important asset. This podcast tells us how time well spent on meaningful things can bring enormous results. I am going to utilize this one to live freedom life! #ilhfamily
Yes Radhika! You’re right…
I have heard this podcast earlier, however, did not leave a comment. I was too dumbstruck to even write anything as it sounded so much like me – be it the meetings, be it BNI days, congregation, people and so on and so forth.
I have finally learnt the art of saying ‘no’ without being blunt or rude, maintaing the respect in relationships and friendships, especially after joining the #ilhfamily.
This was really a big deal to say ‘NO’ to someone for me earlier. I learned this after a long period of time, after exhausting myself to situations a number of times. We normally say yes to every single item whether person or project just not to hurt the other person. But In doing so we definitely hurts ourselves.
As a woman I have found myself in situations not being able to say no and created tough situations for myself but the other people, even your family, didn’t realize your sacrifices.
Now I have prepared myself to say strictly no to many things. Still I am working on this powerful tool “no”. I know very well now that still here is room for improvement in this area in my life.
I would like to say that by making this small word “NO” as a must tool of your life:
1. You will be more focused
2. As a result your productivity will increase.
3. You will have time for yourself.
4. You will enjoy your life 100%.
5. You will be more lively.
And still exploring more areas.
#ilhfamily #ilhdeeplearner
Thanks, Sidz, good experience an eye opener for many. Lot to learn.
Thank you Sidz! for your magic tips.In business if we follow this ,many of losses may be avoided ,particularly in money transactions. Had I said this when my friends asked for money I would not have lost their friendship and my money as well in so many occassions. Your podcast is a good ,timely eye opener to shape up our activities.
GOOSEBUMPS! POWERFUL! LIFE CHANGING!
This is perhaps the most practically usable emotional intelligence method that we all need to follow on a daily basis – the Power of Saying “No”!
It’s 100% relatable to me since in my 40 years of life I have faced so many situations where I had to say “yes” to people especially in my family and workplace instead of gathering the courage to say “no” at the cost of my peace of mind that it took major tolls on my overall energy, productivity and focus to achiever greater things in life, to fulfill my purpose; BIG MISTAKE!
As Sidz adequately explains in this Podcast, I have learned that whether it is your JOB or your BUSINESS or your FAMILY or FRIENDS or RELATIVES:
– when your intentions, life’s goals, purpose, mission & vision are misunderstood
– when your positive efforts for the greater good are grossly ignored
– when people keep taking advantage of you without showing any sign of adjustments / scarifies from their end
– when they somehow try to box you inside their little-orthodox-so called “normal” ideologies of life, the ideologies that are recipes of 95% of the people living a life without any purpose, selfishly satisfying only their bank accounts, their cars, their houses, their families and eventually fading away in their own “normal” society
then IT IS HIGH TIME THAT you need to prioritize who actually deserves your time and who don’t.
I WOULD LIKE TO ADD A VERY IMPORTANT POINT HERE that I had faced and learned to bypass:
– saying NO at times especially to few very important people in your life or your job can be tricky,
– therefore I suggest that you make sure you master COMMUNICATION SKILLS.
– You have to ensure that you are communicating your NO properly & politely !
– I suggest that you practice a key communication skills technique called the “Yes frame of mindset” which basically let’s you form your negative responses in a positive way! For example: Do you have 4 hands and 3 legs? Answer: Wow, that could have been something, but I am afraid I am just another human with 2 hands and 2 legs :-)) You are negating without being negative!
People, Projects and Phone – when you know what your vision, mission, purpose and goal is YOU MUST LEARN THE ART OF SAYING NO, there is no other way to have a more productive life starting from NOW!
Thank you Siddharth my #digitalbuddha for relentlessly sharing truly life transforming content – day in and day out! Really grateful and really humbled to be a part of #ilhfamily, #ilhdeeplearner ????????
To have a purposeful, potent, powerful and meaningful life saying No is of paramount importance. It requires a a lot of courage to say No.
Saying No will give us a lot of Freedom.
Even I used to please people a lot, but since I started to say No I have benefited immensely.
And in this podcast it is so very well explained as to why we should say No.
Yes, No is one of the powerful word,
* People
1.Family
2.Meeting
3.Obligation
4.Society
*Project
1.Job Environment
2.Consultant Environment
3.Business
4.Hire & Fire
* Bonus
1.Phone- Calls, Msg & App.
2.If we say no that is the super success.
This is really impact on every body life.
No
No
No
Thanks Sidzz.
The power of NO
#ILHFamily #ILHDeepLearner
Why do we end up saying YES to well, almost everything?
Here are the possible 10 reasons(and I am sure there are many more):
1. Want to look good in the eyes of everyone else
2. Don’t want to displease anyone
3. Want to be perceived as an expert in the eyes of the other person
4. Want to be a problem solver for everyone
5. Genuinely interested in the condition of others
6. Do not know how to prioritize stuff
7. If I don’t say YES, no one will come to me the next time
8. Wrong commitment based out of emotion
9. Your calendar is not filled up with important activities therefore you have all the time to keep saying YES
10. You feel that you will be benifitted by saying YES to the other person
Challenges you’ll face if you keep saying YES to everything:
1. No time for yourself:
a. Because you don’t have time for yourself, you won’t be working on things that makes you happy or one that motivates you
b. This resutls working on things that is not your real purpose
c. If you do not work on things that motivates you, you are automatically choosing demotivation
2. No time for creativity
a. Everything that was created in this world, was created twice, once in your mind and then in reality
b. If you do not give the opportunity to create anything even once (in your mind), you cannot create a new reality for yourself
3. Results
a. Mediocre thinking can only create mediocre results
b. When you are naturally working on things that do not motivate you, you’ll see results likewise – demotivating
c. When you know for sure that the result of your work is not going to be great, you cannot enjoy the journey – however beautiful it is
d. If you cannot create great results for yourself, you cannot create any thing great for others
e. The ultimate result is that you are stuck in a vicious circle of:
working on things that is not enjoyable – results in demotivation – work harder on same things thinking it will create better results – results in bigger demotivation
– this cycle continues
First area to exercise the power of NO: PEOPLE
1. Family members (some of them) just wants to get maximum benefit out of you
2. Meetings – Travel, Fuel, Energy, Time gets spent and if the meeting resutls are not great, you will further lose motivation
3. Think about Is this meeting really needed? Can it be done without this meeting and extract equal or more value from everyone?
4. Internal meetings are places where people want to take away your time
5. External Meetings – Business development is another place where people constantly eat away your time
6. Personal Obligation – Returning favor to someone who had helped you in the past is important but not at the expense of your priority activities
7. Women and moms do have a lots of constraint wrt the amount of time freedom they have after maintaining so many relationships
wrt family, extended families – they really need to stip away activities that sucks away time
8. Society – Part of a congregation – can take higher priority over family. Do with care and empathy towards your family
9. Build society around your life and lifestyle, not the other way round
Second area to exercise the power of NO: PROJECTS
1. Junior-senior relationship. People take your time for granted. Set expectations
2. Pick who you want to work with so that there is an Code of Honour and agreement to not step into each others space
3. Business environment – No to bigger projects, verticles
4. Job, Consulting, Business – Three areas
5. Say NO to all spokes of business activities like marketing, sales, scaling, people…etc that is not useful
Third area to exercise the power of NO: PHONE
1. Limit your accessibility – be accessible to yourself first
2. Stop putting your phone number everywhere – avoid being spammed
3. Seperate out business and personal phones – Have clear demarcation between personal and professional life
4. Calls, messages, apps – These are biggest time killers. Use with total care. Use if only really necessary
5. Create rather than consuming things – spend time creating as told by Earl Nightingale
Other Takeaways:
1. You can’t say NO if you don’t know what you want and don’t want
2. If you have a Purposeful, meaningful life you will easily say NO to unimportant stuffs
3. Don’t be Robitic, lead an automated lifestyle
4. WHo you want to serve, impact, legacy, disfunction in your industry is an important thing to know to keep yourself inspired so that you can put your foot down and say NO
5. Connected spirutually
6. What drives you? ask yourself
7. Clarity in vision = power to say NO
8. Control, conviction, purpose, power needed inlife
9. Stanford case study – Marshmellow test – delayed gratification by saying NO
10. Those who couldn’t not say NO (delaying gratification), couldn’t do well in their life after 25 years
11. It takes courage to say NO
12. Be Clear about where you want to go in your life
#ILHFamily #ILHDeep Learner
The 24 hours in a day , we can not increase the time of a day , if we have have some extra work to complete , in short we cannot have control of the time. The only thing we have control is managing our work .
In managing our work or time the art of saying “NO” plays a big role .
The problem people face saying yes in place of NO is the fear of cause that can happen by saying NO
The fear among People Like
loss of relationship
loss of friends ship
loss of fame
loss of own happiness
But by saying Yes we are leading ourselves in to trouble. frustration and finally end to disease like .high blood pleasure, heart failure , Diabetic , Obesity etc
Among relation (People ) like any member of family or among friend , we need to practice saying NO depend on the nature of the thing to do ,
how it affect your performance or your goal ,
In Internal meeting or External meetings we can save our time by selecting, what need to do , whether attending any benefit personally, just for the sake of other need not present So we have to have the objective prior to attending the meetings ,practice saying NO which are time killing and wasting time , be selective and focused.
In the Society ( public culture function, related to religious places etc ) , practicing to select or saying NO to one which is not benefit need to practice,
In the modern time Phone utility ,people have addiction to many apps and social net works , be very selective which apps are needed for your goals ,which need to avoid can help you lead you way to success.
We can practice the Blue print of success people, following their daily habit to a great extend and we will learning to which all action we need to say ‘ NO’ .
The Power of saying “NO” is a great important factor to the success
and achieving one’s Goal .
Learning the art of ‘ where to Say NO’ and have great success in Life is the Key learning and take away from this Podcast .
.
KAMALESH S.V
#ILHFamily #ILHDeepLearner
#ILHFamily #ILHDeep Learner
Key Takeaways:
1. Saying NO to people
The root causes of not being able to say NO to people are;
A) What others think about me when I express my;
o Disagreement (example- in family)
o Withdrawal from engagements (example- in internal meetings)
o Decision on proposals (example- in external meetings)
o Vision which contradicts people’s expectations (example-Personal obligations)
o Priorities (example- society/congregations)
2. Saying NO to projects
The root causes of not being able to say NO to projects are;
A) What if others think I am not;
o Submitting to authorities (example- Senior-Junior relationships in a Job)
o Taking clients seriously or approachable (example- Consulting/ agency)
o Having courage to take big projects (example- Over all Business)
3. Saying NO to phone
The root causes of not being able to say NO to projects are;
A) What if others think I am not;
o Accessible (example – Calls)
o Engaging (example- Messages)
o Active in social media platforms (example- Apps)
Solution: “When you have clarity on your vision, you will be automatically know which all are the things that are not in line with our vision.”
Benefit: Saying NO gives you space, conviction, power, control, purpose, and it’s the ultimate road to Freedom.
#ILHfamily #ILHdeeplearner
It’s a wonderful podcast, Sid! At jobs, projects… I have experienced the same and could never say NO because we felt obliged to say YES to everything. We grew up saying YES to everything people asked of us!
Saying NO to many areas in life gives confidence to do own things.
Totally agree that on being a woman means accepting many responsibilities, which takes woman a harder to say NO in family matters, especially if it is nuclear family and one with small kids.
I’m happy to have heard you and share my deep thoughts with you here.
Thank you
Consequences of saying Yes to all …????
A person gets stuck as an individual keeps on trying to please everyone…
People Don’t value him
Getting carried away with no proper path by moving in all directions trying to convince and please people
Saying No to whom????
1) People : close family members asking for favour, money
2)Mmeetings
External clients meetings
saying Yes to all prospects without proper delegence will lead to
simply waste of time, money and efforts
3)Internal meetings for Business Development
4) Personal Obligations : sometimes you may also have personal Obligations with people.
5) Society : connected to a religious society may be a church, a temple or a mosque.. or any Get togethering, Cultural society…
6)Projects : Business and careers with job
Job environment… First area
Consultations environment second
Consulting… Agency… Any kind of business
Which effect alot your health your routine.. you may not have time for yourself
And you are controlled by your boss or manager….
…..
Hiring people & firing people
systems
Projects
Vendors
The spokes of business wheels like
Sales, Marketing, financial, HR, R &D etc..
Our Phone
1)calls
2) message
3) your apps
Saying Yes to whom ????
Set your priority to your family first
Which means spouse and kids
As they arethe most important part of the world and rest everythingselse is secondary
As a result a kind of space is created and then actual Growth happens automatically
Yes to all projects that come around
As it moved freedom from Life
End Results of saying No ????
I value my time I value my space
Keeping as much as wanted…
Like facebook.. telegram on and off
Leveraging more time on creating things than consuming things
One get Clarity in his vision which will
automatically know what other things that are not aligned with your vision
or paths that are actually aligned to his vision…
Saying No gives him more
Space
Power
Control
Conviction
Purpose
And ultimately Helps you, moving forward towards your Goal.
Really Very Useful Information ????????
Thank You Sidharth…
Thanks All for Reading .
#ilhfamily
#ilhdeeplearner
Awesome insights Renuka!!
The power of saying no
In society and the people are any others everyone tells that follow your heart follow your passion and when we are following our real heart and passion and saying no to those people for there Unnecessary request and they will tell this words you are not into that what you’re doing. This leads to your nothing and hears that from those people you have changed you are not the person before you. That to you ignoring us you are doing bull shit It will not help you to grow why are you doing all these I don’t understand why people always say follow your heart and again saying that you can not do that why? that is the reason that you need to improve that power of saying NO because people always criticize you whatever you do so there are a lot of situations to say NO before saying NO you have to self audit the real values you are giving and much more things are involved in that like your situation your thoughts and with a peace of mind we have to think to say NO. When you reach the real power of saying NO then no one is going to stop you from your success your peaceful life your real freedom
#ILHFAMILY #ILHDEEPLEANER
Amazing stuff!! Thanks for sharing Mohan
Really .. very helpful and thanks for sharing
Power of No
Instant Gratification Vs Delayed Gratification
People
Projects
Phone
You really hit the nail on it’s head. The power of saying NO to people, projects and the phone…. leaves one with a lot of personal space and freedom.
It’s actually about the choices we make in our life – whether the choice exercised adds value to our physical, mental and spiritual being is the moot point to be considered that can propel us to make the right choice.
You’ve really touched upon all these aspects through your examples. Top stuff!
Waiting to hear more from you…
Awesome Kallol, great insights!
Wow,Learnt today power of saying no to un wanted things and unnwanted situations come across in the day to day life,
Power of saying No is Most essential symptom must inculcate everybody in life at all times without this we are all struck in such a situation where others are taking control of us,hence I would say,that power of Saying no to.
People,At job supervisors ,and mostly our mobiles …This is the most effective learning in the podcast it’s really transformed me…
Madhu kodidala
I’m glad you found this learning journey valuable!
#ilhfamily#ilhdeeplearner
Working hard and still feeling meaningless and unfulfilled….because you don’t say NO enough!
No is very powerful word!
Generally people end up saying yes to every single thing because they don’t want to disturb their image in other’s opinions, relationship, work, etc.
Not saying no has side effects too… no time, people don’t value you, you loose sense of purpose, etc.
Following are the practical scenarios (3P’s) where you must say no to open the whole new world of creativity and courage.
1. PEOPLE:
a. Favors of family members as much as possible.
b. Personal/ internal meetings
c. Business/ external meetings.
d. Personal Obligations/ Feeling obligated to the favors: Clarity of communication is important here.
e. Societal obligations, religious obligations: caring and empathetic way of delivering of your NO is important.
2. PROJECTS: Environments where you need to exercise power of No: Job environment, Agency environment, Consulting environment, business environment, every aspect of business wheel. Clear communication, clear expectations and courage to say NO is important here.
3. PHONE: When you are more and more accessible to people you end up loosing freedom. value your time, value your space.
a. calls
b. messages
c. apps
create more time on creating things than consuming things. Productivity killers: massaging apps like whatsapp.
When you have clarity in your vision, you will automatically know what is not in alignment with your vision. Sit and think about it.
What I really want in my life? What kind of impact do I want to create? What really drives Me?
I want to earn 500000 rupees per month consistently on total autopilot doing what I love, helping millions of people live happy, healthy and prosperous life.
Saying No gives you space, power, control, conviction, purpose so gotta draw courage to say NO.
Example of Instant gratification V/S delayed Gratification:
Standford research: marshmallow test! Longest research.
those kids who did resist the temptation and did say NO to marshmallow in those minutes did achieve great things in life.
Exercise power of saying no to live more purposeful, powerful, potent, free, fulfilled and amazing life.
Awesome Nishigandha, great insights!
With this Podcast Siddharth comes with an insight that’s so relevant to us in our lives. It’s a very useful & productive idea for everyone of us who look forward to living a life of freedom. I could really connect with this concept.
Saying “NO” requires real guts and clarity on our part…… we end up saying yes to everything and to everyone just to please all or with whatever compulsion we have in our lives and continue harming our own self. He doesn’t tel us to be rude or selfish while saying No to anyone. Circumstances & conditions. could be handled even sensitively and logically in a smarter way.
We must have our priorities in life clear and do things that are aligned to our vision. Such thing only comes when we have clarity in our thoughts.
Hence it requires us to sit and think about it, as to :
1) What we want to do and where do we want to go in life ?
2) Do we want to live a robotic life, like Eat, work & sleep ?
3) What do I want out of my life ?
4) Who do I want to serve ?
5) What kind of legacy I want to leave behind ?
6) What kind of impact do i want to create in the world ?
7) What new innovation or disruption I want to do in my work or industry ?
8) What actually drives me ?
9) Do I want something long or just short term ?
Knowing these above will only give us the power, purpose, conviction & clarity in life.
For becoming success we must win over our temptations. The real life study of the marsh mellow test on kids proved that those who could not resist for even 10min were not so successful in their lives whereas those kids who could fight the temptation were found to be super successful.
We must exercise the power to say NO & live more FREE, fulfilled purposeful, powerful, meaningful and enjoying life for ourselves, our families and loved ones.
Saying No can get us time for ourself to learn and grow, whereas not saying so, will eat away our productivity, self growth & independence. We suffocate and live a suppressed and depressed life by not learning to say No.
Followings were the tips for 3 P’s by Siddharth where we must be aware how to handle situations and learn to say No as per our life values.
1. People : Relatives, Friends and all such people who do not value us and our time.
2. Project : Jobs could be tricky but one can always find ways to say no if it is not in alignment with the job conditions. But for that we must be master at what we do and do it correctly or else we may end up saying yes to everything in order to compensate our inefficiency. Consulting & Business we could know when and where to say No to Vendors, Customers or even to opportunities that’s not fit or suitable or to the requirements from various departments such as HR, Sales, Purchase and such areas.
3. Phone is the biggest villain in our life as far as managing time is concerned. Getting accessible to everyone all the time could prove tough. Hence it is advisable to discipline ourself when to take calls/ when to respond to messages. How much time to consume on social media apps and so on. These should be minimised and say No to all such things and if nothing then to the notifications at least .
Following all these can tremendously help us raise our productivity and achieve our Goals in life.
#ilhfamily #ilhdeeplearner
Awesome Rajesh, great insights!
https://siddharthrajsekar.com/how-to-magically-achieve-massive-results-by-saying-no/
#ilhfamily
#ilhdeeplearner
Consequences of saying Yes to all …
A person gets stuck as an individual keeps on trying to please everyone…
People Don’t value him
Getting carried away with no proper path by moving in all directions trying to convince and please people
Saying No to whom..
1) People : close family members asking for favour, money
2) Meetings
External clients meetings
saying Yes to all prospects without proper delegence will lead to
simply waste of time, money and efforts
3)Internal meetings for Business Development
4) Personal Obligations : sometimes you may also have personal Obligations with people.
5) Society : connected to a religious society may be a church, a temple or a mosque.. or any Get togethering, Cultural society…
6)Projects : Business and careers with job
Job environment… First area
Consultations environment second
Consulting… Agency… Any kind of business
Which effect alot your health your routine.. you may not have time for yourself
And you are controlled by your boss or manager….
…..
Hiring people & firing people
systems
Projects
Vendors
The spokes of business wheels like
Sales, Marketing, financial, HR, R &D etc..
Our Phone
1)calls
2) message
3) your apps
Saying Yes to whom
Set your priority to your family first
Which means spouse and kids
As they arethe most important part of the world and rest everythingselse is secondary
As a result a kind of space is created and then actual Growth happens automatically
Yes to all projects that come around
As it moved freedom from Life
End Results of saying No ????
I value my time I value my space
Keeping as much as wanted…
Like facebook.. telegram on and off
Leveraging more time on creating things than consuming things
One get Clarity in his vision which will
automatically know what other things that are not aligned with your vision
or paths that are actually aligned to his vision…
Saying No gives him more
Space
Power
Control
Conviction
Purpose
And ultimately Helps you, moving forward towards your Goal.
Really Very Useful Information ????????
Thank You Sidharth…
Thanks All for Reading .
#ilhfamily
#ilhdeeplearner
Awesome! This is just the beginning 🙂 More power to you!
The power of saying No.
********
My take away :
People:
Specially those belong to Family a special case with women who are doubtless to be dragged between inlaws and parents need to learn to say No
*****
Projects:
I very much connect here
I was in the same situation with my earlier business where now I realize I said yes to all clients and single day or by evening deliveries and I was never available to my family or to my own passions
It is a lesson learnt ..
Now in my new venture I am sure to Say No.
Phone :
It’s ok not to pick a few calls or not responding to a few messages and Apps
******
Much needed reassurance from my mentor
And I feel that I am on the right track
????????
Awesome Mahathi, great insights!
SUPERB POWER and clarity on this : saying “NO”
Why we say yes for all:
Looking good: you have to say Yes to all.
Result :
No Time: confusing life
Overwhelming
No value
Loss purpose of why and what m I doing..
Power to say no.
Open a new world of creation, take courage.
Sometimes you feel opportunity down
3p
1. People: aspect Family, Ask for fav, time, money n other. There may be some member they unable to convey or courage no.
Meeting people: Sometimes conclude that its west of time. If no result or no worth then u say no. No productive then u need to look at this aspect.
External meetings: No productive then u have to say no or explain it how it goes as no result.
Personal obligations: someone helps you should help them back. So many relations, and linked up with many people, managing multiple roles in the family by a woman.
This scenario as having a woman and saying NO to some of the internal people. Same for Men as well. The clarity in comms is imp.
Society: Societies’ duties get priorities and they neglect to family. (Any society no only one specific) No compromise with your personal family as it goes against communities and society.
2. Projects:
Within job you are saying YEES for all tasks, as per role and responsibility.
Effect in another area physically, creativity, commas, relation
Consulting Environment: Say nowhere its go over hectic, or not qualified projects
Business Env : No to bigger decision and vertical sector. Say No actually gives power to freedom. Hiring people, firing people, no to venders, many aspects …
3. P**** = YOUR MOBILE Phone
Saty long away from mobile, no attachment
Productivity get increase: uninterrupted personal time is important.
• Call : Avoid or skip unnecessary calls
• Message: No chit chat (What’s app is no productivity killer) , email u can spend time on business emails and messages which are totally gives you high productivity
• Apps : Unwanted app remove
When u have clarity have in vision you automatically know what you realy want.Where to no go and which is give high productivity.
Are you thinking what is your goal? What u want ? what is imp? What I will have do my best ? what impact it create?
What you service providing?
What drives you?
When you get points you will get clarity, vision, search for TED marsh mellow test.
If you not eat in 10 min , then u get second marsh mellow.
Tried on childerens and after
25 year they come to the conclusion:
Those who could not say NO : they eat : didn’t end up with fruitful things
Those are not eaten they comes with super fruitful stuff in life. Powerful life.
Amazing podcast on saying NO.. power of NO.
“The oldest, shortest words – ‘yes’ and ‘no’ – are those which require the most thought.”
Saying “No” we feel as unpleasing , fear of loosing “good boy” image with others
The courage to respond NO where ever required
People :
1.Family when they ask time for leisure
2.Meeting people with out making sure that he is a hot prospect
3.Internal meeting we assemble for sake of it and not result
4.Personal Obligation with relatives and friends whom those emotional supported or financially helped, we are over indulge to give back with a feeling that really needed or not and not able to put a line on expectation
5.Society/communities obligation, where we have to waste lot of time, we have to be there in sake of showing we are part of the
Projects:::
Job
1.with customers
2.with colleagues
3.with higher management/boss
consulting
1.If we say no to any project or sales or opportunity , Fear of loosing something, if we deny something
Business
to say no to lot of people
vendors
systems
people
R&D
Phone
calls, messages, apps
Say ‘no’ to anything that does not serve you. Be it people – at work, acquaintances etc, projects.
Remember, if you say ‘yes’ to everyone & everything, you end up saying ‘no’ to yourself.
You don’t deserve that.
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Working hard and still feeling meaningless and unfulfilled….because you don’t say NO enough!
No is very powerful word!
Generally people end up saying yes to every single thing because they don’t want to disturb their image in other’s opinions, relationship, work, etc.
Not saying no has side effects too… no time, people don’t value you, you loose sense of purpose, etc.
Following are the practical scenarios (3P’s) where you must say no to open the whole new world of creativity and courage.
1. PEOPLE:
a. Favors of family members as much as possible.
b. Personal/ internal meetings
c. Business/ external meetings.
d. Personal Obligations/ Feeling obligated to the favors: Clarity of communication is important here.
e. Societal obligations, religious obligations: caring and empathetic way of delivering of your NO is important.
2. PROJECTS: Environments where you need to exercise power of No: Job environment, Agency environment, Consulting environment, business environment, every aspect of business wheel. Clear communication, clear expectations and courage to say NO is important here.
3. PHONE: When you are more and more accessible to people you end up loosing freedom. value your time, value your space.
a. calls
b. messages
c. apps
create more time on creating things than consuming things. Productivity killers: massaging apps like whatsapp.
When you have clarity in your vision, you will automatically know what is not in alignment with your vision. Sit and think about it.
What I really want in my life? What kind of impact do I want to create? What really drives Me?
I want to earn 500000 rupees per month consistently on total autopilot doing what I love, helping millions of people live happy, healthy and prosperous life.
Saying No gives you space, power, control, conviction, purpose so gotta draw courage to say NO.
Example of Instant gratification V/S delayed Gratification:
Standford research: marshmallow test! Longest research.
those kids who did resist the temptation and did say NO to marshmallow in those minutes did achieve great things in life.
Exercise power of saying no to live more purposeful, powerful, potent, free, fulfilled and amazing life.
Thanks sidz for the excellent information in the podcast, this is very important subject in the life of person and motivated to say no to things which is not in your alllianments to avoid the mess up
Wonderful podcast
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#ILHFAMILY
#YOUCANCOACH
POWER OF NO……
saying yes to everyone and everything ….
Felt like I am lost … People are taking me for granted … Lost my purpose. .. Won’t know why I am doing what I am doing. ….
You must say NO….
3.. P……
First p… People
Say No to people… Closed family member … There may be few family member just want more from you. ..
Say no to meeting people …. Friends hangout … Meeting with new prospect. .. Not qualifying before meeting …..
Question before meeting. … Business development meeting also you can say no …considering how valuable it is…
Managing Extended family relationship… …. Its the hardest thing …. Specially being women. ….
Having the power to communicate clearly that what you want from relationship …. Step into power …draw the boundaries…and setting the expectations …clear clarity is so important….
The society … Religious society ….their spiritual standard ….the priorities …. So that you never neglect the close member within family ….. Make sure it is done with care …. Taking care of your close one …..
Any kind of club ….don’t neglect your personal and family side ….
Keep your parents spouse and kids your number one priority…..
Second p …is project ….
For you the project is your job …your business…. It may affect your health and personal life …..
Having courage to say no ….makes lots of difference…
Say no actually gives you power …
Saying No to any consulting project … You need to learn say no to low qualifying project so that you can say high qualified project ….
Saying no to small project in order to get bigger project ….
Saying no …will actually give you the power to have more FREEDOM….
no to hiring People…
No to firing people …
No to system ..,
No to customer ….
Third p is PHONE…..
Say no to phone…
Not being available to everyone. …
Saying no to calls…
Saying to messages
Saying no to applications…..
Having more personal space ….
Remove the notification from WhatsApp and facebook and instagram ….
Remove … Eliminate …and minimize …..
Practice say in no to people projects and phone ….
You will be never able to say no …unless you know yourself about your own vision …what you really want out of your life…. What kind of impact you want to create …. What’s really drive you …. So ask yourself …
Saying no will give you more conviction ..more clarity …more power ….more freedom. ……
Thank you
Yes, Progress in career, Saying no is the best practice to get away from unnecessary stuff, projects and people. It’s not only practice, it’s the best strategy as well.
Wow, Learnt today the power of saying no to unwanted things and unwanted situations come across in the day to day life,
The power of saying No is the Most essential symptom that must inculcate in everybody in life at all times without this we are all struck in such a situation where others are taking control of us, hence I would say, that power of Saying no to.
I am gradually learning to say NO. As I stop pleasing people, I feel more powerful and in control of my choices, actions, and GOALS. NO communicates my boundaries to others and my demands on them to respect it. I believe the two letter word ‘NO’ has a scent of clarity embedded in it. I can vouch for the fact that it has a strong favorable impact on one’s physical and mental well-being.
I have started saying no since I joined your community Sidz and it has changed me a lot. I am able to take time for myself and my priorities.
Saying no is actually very powerful. People will take you for granted if we always try to please them.
That women point is so apt. Being a woman we have to give others the priority and somewhere we lost our own purpose. It is very important for us to say no without being rude.
Thank you so much for sharing this podcast.
Takeaways
1. Say No to all unnecessary and overloading activities that affects your health and life and your focus
2. People and Projects are kind of known ones and at most times unavoidable. Phone was a nice surprise
=> Whatsapp – a monster by itself – really a productivity killer – though removed notification as you suggested a few months ago Sidz, it is kind of pulling me to open it and see if at all there is a message available- mind is kind of got used to it I believe – trying to get rid of that habit.
3. Should Improve my skill of Saying “NO” wherever necessary to be more productive & focused
Writing just the summary of my learning’s….since this topic needs elaboration…It’s the very basis of our life journey.. A YES OR A NO.. ??? It needs a lot of churning, till we get to the cream of it because as is said, Every time you say yes to others against your will , you are saying no to yourself.
1) Beware of your wants.. Your wants create your KARMA. I wrote a few days ago while I was introspecting on a situation that happened a few years back… So, if you are feeling good after saying a No, just remember this,
2) “For those who believe in God no explanation is necessary, for those who don’t believe in God no explanation is possible.” – Robert E. Svoboda So, if you are feeling bad after saying a No , just remember this.
I am slowly learning to say NO
1. Power to say No – Yes it is important to understand and differentiate when and why to say No it will actually give you the power to have more FREEDOM
2. Avoid to all unnecessary and overloading activities that affects your health and life and your focus
2. People and Projects are kind of known ones and at most times unavoidable.
3. Phone and unwanted apps really a productivity killer
4. Saying no to call, Saying to messages extremely important
Thank you❤🌹
It opened my heart and mind
Just a case and 3p
I know my worth
After listening to podcast
What I decided to do is whenever I feel demotivated Or not feeling to do anything
I just remind myself that THE WORTH OF ME
it just open my mind heart and soul
Thank you❤🌹🙏 so much
Thank you so much Sid.
After listening to your podcast, one good thing i did was turned out all the notifications from my mobile..
Yes Sid i need more productive me time.
God bless you
More power to you!
A new clarity again achieve—
Always try to understand whichever we doing that is for my own values glowing, helping in the direction of my values that is to be think.
Awesome!
“Whatever You Really Want To Achieve In Life Will Happen By Saying NO”
Really Mandatory thing to accept this and make habit to say NO to irrelevant to achieve your Goal.
1st P–> People
1. Family
2. Internal Meetings
3. External Meetings
4. Personal Obligations
5. Society Obligations
2nd P–> Projects
1. Job Environments
2. Consulting Environments
3. Business Environments
No To –> Hiring/Firings/System/Method etc..
3rd P–> Phone
1.Calls
2.Messaging–>simple msg/WhatsApp messaging/ Facebook messaging/Instagram etc.. Messaging
3. Apps
Use Your valuable time in Creating things rather Consuming things.
When You Have The Clarity In Your Vision You Will Automatically Know What Other Things That Are Not Aligned With Your Vision.
You Will Not Be Able To Say “NO” Unless You Know What You Really Want.
so finally Finishing My Comments with This that
May You Exercise The Power Of “NO” To Live More Free, Fulfilled, Powerful, Purposeful, Potent And Amazing Life.
Thanks Sid for Sharing Such An Important Powerful thought.
Thanks for sharing your insights, Ajeet!