I just thought of sharing how I balance my family and business in this podcast. Hope this will inspire you to prioritise the same way!
Family and Business
I'm sure you're curious about how I manage my family and business while being a father of two boys and actively seeking to spend quality time at home. Essentially, I've adopted the role of a house dad while simultaneously building my business. I'd like to share my approach with all of you and shed light on the decisions I've made in recent years. Why did I opt for working from home instead of establishing a large company with an office and employees, among other things? I want to provide you with an insight into my overarching worldview.
If this resonates with you, great; if not, that's perfectly fine. You'll still gain my perspective on how I navigate the delicate balance—though I prefer not to use the term "balance"—of family and business. How do I harmonize both aspects?
Let me rewind to my childhood when my dad worked from home. He had an office at home, meeting clients, and then spending time with me. This childhood influence inspired me to adopt a similar lifestyle, emphasizing working from home. Growing up, my parents were always there when I returned from school, providing a sense of comfort that I wished to pass on to my own children. When my second son arrived, I consciously decided to prioritize spending time with my kids.
My first son was born in 2012 while I was running a digital marketing agency in Bangalore with over 35 employees. Commuting in Bangalore traffic took a toll, with a 90-minute drive each way. I realized the importance of being present during the early years of my child's life and decided to make a change. In 2016, when we moved to Chennai, I chose to support my wife's music career and became a house dad, focusing on family support while building a business from home.
Transitioning from the agency to my coaching business, I embraced online communication, eliminating the need for a physical office. Moving to Chennai made it easier to manage my business virtually. I adjusted my schedule, waking up at 6:37 am to prepare my son for school, being the only father dropping him off among a sea of mothers, and then picking him up later. This shift allowed me to prioritize family while pursuing my entrepreneurial goals.
So, I pursued that for a good 3 to 4 years, you know, ever since we came here, and because my wife was intensely focused on her music career, she was undergoing an advanced Karna music course at the Music Academy in Chennai. Out of over 1000 people, only six were chosen, and she was one of them. Consequently, I had to step in to support her in her career. Thus, she would leave much earlier than us; her classes began at 8 a.m., and she would return around lunchtime, perhaps at 1:02 p.m. After her departure, I would have to get my son ready, and then she would start her classes.
The interesting part is that throughout this entire process, I learned how to make my life more efficient in balancing family and business. We managed to accomplish more than 2.13 quarters in the first year of business, completely operated from home. I would drop my kid off at school while my wife was in music class. In the morning, when I was still fresh, I would start recording videos for YouTube, and my content and courses would take shape. The second part of my day involved numerous 1-to-1 calls, especially when someone purchased my level two product, the gold membership known as the Freedom Setup Challenge. These calls could go on for one, two, or even three hours. I would start them at 2 p.m., finishing around 6 p.m., take a quick break, then proceed with webinars at 7 p.m. and 8 p.m. I typically conducted two or three webinars a week, interspersed with inner circle calls. This routine continued for four or five days a week, live. From 2018 until today, I have conducted over 1000 sales webinars.
I'm specifically referring to sales webinars; not including inner circle calls or leadership council calls. It was a lot of hard work, but the beautiful thing was the ability to balance time. I would get my son ready for school, pick him up around one, and start my 1-to-1 calls at 2 p.m. I'd have a 15 to 20-minute window for lunch, complete the calls, and during the gap between 6 p.m. and 8 p.m., I would go for a drive with my wife. We would catch up, have dinner, and spend quality time together. After that, I would go back to work.
I'm truly grateful that this rhythm worked in my favor because I wasn't doing much else—no outings, parties, or meeting friends. Although I had friends, my focus was on the vision and mission. I attended numerous training programs and, during drives, listened to podcasts for continuous learning. After putting my kid to sleep at night, typically around 10 p.m. or 11 p.m., I would start my learning session, tuning into podcasts and other masterminds. It was pretty intense; I would sleep at 1:32 a.m. and wake up at 7 a.m., getting six to seven hours of sleep, and repeat the cycle.
Based on the journey so far and its evolution, as I began to automate, delegate, and systemize tasks while adding team members, it's worth noting that in the initial phase, I personally handled around 200 emails per day. It was a considerable workload, and, humorously, my son would often mockingly point out that I, the proponent of a freedom business model, seemed to lack personal freedom. I would respond, urging him to be patient, assuring him that true freedom takes time to materialize.
Contrary to popular misconceptions, freedom isn't about idling on beaches and fully automating one's business while money effortlessly flows in. Even if such scenarios occur, they are usually short-lived. For me, freedom is the ability to wake up every morning and engage in what I love without external dictates. This means serving my community, expressing myself, and building profound connections with them.
The delicate balance between family and business is structured around a model I've personally devised, emphasizing five priorities: environment, soul, body, personal talents and hobbies, family, and business.
Environment takes precedence in my daily operations. I avoid unnecessary meetings and travel, reserving the latter strictly for leisure with family or spiritual pursuits. Despite a sizable community, I've set boundaries to minimize disruptions, responding promptly only to quantum members. I also refrain from making decisions solely for external recognition, maintaining focus on my core objectives.
Soul is the next priority, involving daily meditation, puja, monthly temple visits, and spiritual scripture reading. This ensures I remain inspired and connected to my spiritual teachings, laying a foundation for a clear and focused mind.
Subsequently, I prioritize the body, adhering to a specific diet and undertaking an annual Pancha Karma detox. Recognizing the body's pivotal role in sustaining energy for impactful work, I liken its care to maintaining a car through regular servicing.
By aligning these priorities and consciously structuring my time, I cultivate an environment conducive to both personal and professional fulfillment, achieving a harmonious integration of family and business into my life.
And then, I also make sure I get good sleep. So even if I'm sleeping late at night, I aim for my eight hours of sleep. I also wake up a little late in case I sleep in. So, I'm not very hard on myself that I have to get up at Brahma murta and do my, you know, meditation and stuff. Sometimes it happens at different times, and I'm okay with that.
Moving on to my personal talents and hobbies, I enjoy making music and launching elevation sets. I listen to a lot of tracks, and of course, gaming is another personal area of interest. I sit with my kids, and we play a lot of games, dedicating at least an hour to gaming every single day – our bonding activity.
Now, onto the actual family time. My number one priority is spending time with my wife. We both are aligned in our goals, vision, and spiritual life. We've faced rough moments in our relationship in the past, and I've realized that the one person who will be with you for the rest of your life is your wife. Your kids will come and go, your parents have brought you into this world and will leave. But the one person who will be with you till the end is your spouse.
For me, my top priority is my wife. We discuss different things, and then comes the time with our kids. Even when I take my kids out, I have one-on-one time with each of them. We also have a family ritual before going to sleep. The four of us come together for a family time session.
Family time consists of everyone sharing what they like about each other in the first round. The second round focuses on areas of improvement. We've been doing this for over two years now, and even though we may miss some days, it's a beautiful bonding time that keeps the family connections strong.
My wife remains my number one priority, followed by my kids, and then my parents and in-laws. We may not speak to them often, but we're always there to help and support them. Business comes next. I've structured my workweek to be four days long. Mondays and Tuesdays are dedicated to calls and meetings, while Wednesdays are completely open for me-time, to recuperate and plan the next steps.
Saturdays are usually family days, dedicated to taking the kids out for drives or other activities. Sundays are spiritual days, where we pay our respects to deities, acknowledging the bigger purpose and mission of what we want to achieve. My wife has a daily routine of visiting temples, while I join at least once a week.
This is how I've balanced my family life and business, keeping the vision high and surrendering ourselves to the bigger purpose and mission.
There are always things to tweak and improve, moments where things go up and down, and ad hoc events that can occur, like unexpected travel. However, overall, structuring things in this order—fixing the environment, prioritizing the soul, then the body, followed by personal, family, and business—has helped me accomplish a lot in less time without burning out. In the event of something unforeseen, such as falling sick or experiencing the aftermath of recent travel, where I started to cough for about 15 days, I make it a point to go for a pancha karma treatment. Each time I fall sick, I opt for a pancha karma as it feels like a reset my body needs. I am highly conscious of my body's signals, providing it with the necessary rest and time to recover while I automate other aspects of the business. This proactive approach, coupled with communication with my audience, facilitates business growth.
In essence, there's nothing like balance; there's only harmony. There will be moments when you need to step on the gas pedal to rapidly build and grow your business, and there will be times when you must step off, relax, and spend more time with your family. There will also be moments when you need to focus on enhancing your skills and acquiring new knowledge. Business involves different bursts of moments that require awareness. I hope you found this podcast useful, and I'll catch you in the next episode. This marks my day six out of the 90-day challenge, and let's see how far I can go. Catch you in the next one.