Do you feel stuck growing a business due to personal issues? In this podcast, I share some practical ways to bounce back based on my experience.
How I Overcame Personal Issues?
Growing a digital business can sometimes be incredibly challenging. Personal obstacles and various other hurdles are topics we address in this podcast. I want to offer insights on navigating these personal issues as you expand your business.
I recall 2015 when I embarked on this journey. I was pushing hard, lacking financial resources and facing significant challenges in my relationships. Every time I returned from a workshop or training, I'd come home to my wife's question: "Will our situation ever change?" There were times when the month outlasted our funds. From an outsider's perspective, I appeared successful. However, after accounting for team salaries, tools, taxes, and other expenses, when I'd take my wife out for dinner, I'd find myself perusing the menu's right side, choosing only the cheapest items.
This financial strain culminated in immense pressure. In 2015, I experienced a panic attack, rendering me sleepless for two weeks. My health, relationships, and finances all seemed to be in decline. What I aim to convey is that if you're encountering a similar situation, I deeply empathize.
We often think we have business problems, but more often than not, it's personal issues manifesting in our professional lives. Despite my aspirations to grow my business, these underlying issues stymied my progress. I'll segment these based on wealth, health, or relationship situations. These facets are paramount. Wealth, health, and love – these are the trinities of human fulfillment. With these elements balanced, everything else is a bonus.
So, let me guide you through this. As I relay these strategies, you might glean valuable insights.
It's essential to realize, as I did, that our circumstances, like the ones I faced in 2015, are often drawn to us by our actions and mindset.
The first step was accepting the situation and taking personal responsibility, rather than blaming people, situations, or others. I chose to take it upon myself, acknowledging that my current circumstances were a result of past decisions and different situations I had experienced. Additionally, my mindset played a significant role.
If I go back to 2011 and 2012, when I lost my job and my wife was pregnant, I can see that during that time, I was trapped in a scarcity mindset. Prior to 2011, when I had a secure job, I held an abundance mindset. Earning a comfortable salary of ₹75,000 to ₹80,000, I would clock in 7 to 8 hours a day and return home without worries. Even during the initial years of marriage (2009 and 2010), life was comfortable. However, I wasn't actively working on improving my mindset. Although traces of scarcity thinking existed, I wasn't upgrading my skills or self. When I faced job loss, my initial response was to point fingers at my boss, the situation, and the industry.
Because of my scarcity mindset, the years 2012 to 2015 served as a wake-up call. This period led to my realization that I hadn't been focusing on personal growth despite remaining connected. Throughout these years, I experienced exhaustion due to mental and physical overwork.
Reflecting on my life before the breakdown, I recognized that I lived in a perpetual state of stress and personal conflict. These were personal issues. In 2015, my panic attack prompted a complete rejuvenation. I delved back into spirituality and drafted a 14-page document outlining my ideal life—a detailed portrayal of my perfect day. This document included my waking time, living situation, daily activities, family interaction, time spent with children, and business interactions. It was created even when my financial capacity was limited.
Now, in 2023, I can confidently say that about 90% of what I detailed in that document has come to fruition. While some specifics differ, the overall outcome aligns closely.
This experience led me to realize that most people are trapped due to a lack of clarity about their desires. This often results in a cycle of blaming circumstances, people, and external factors.
And that marked the turning point in my life. Although my life didn't transform overnight, that document I had written became a reference point. If I were to trace back to 2016, I encountered the magic of my mentor, Blessinger. He truly enhanced a dormant ability within me, one I never knew I possessed.
So, because I had authored those two documents in 2015, I'm aware that I attracted the mentor into my life. Some of you may believe in the concept of the law of attraction, while others may not. For me, it's about focusing your thoughts on your desires rather than your lacks, thereby uncovering opportunities, circumstances, and individuals that aid in manifesting your goals.
Now, even during my journey in 2016, I faced numerous moments where quitting seemed plausible. Primarily, I lacked the funds to invest in such a high-priced program. Nonetheless, I managed to swipe my family member's credit card, allowing me to proceed. I then ventured into an advanced program worth ₹7 lakh in Phuket, spanning five days, led by the mentor Blessinger. Financially, I was still in the same situation, but internally, I possessed the conviction and faith that I could make it work.
Indeed, despite the financial tightness, I held the firm belief that this decision would revolutionize my life, committing to its success without a fallback plan. I discarded all alternative plans and made this my sole focus. While this might seem risky to many, it's the unwavering conviction that propels one forward, and it was my mentor who instilled this conviction within me.
His words resonated deeply: "You are greater than your circumstances. The world requires more educators and leaders." These affirmations echoed in my mind, such as "I am amazing," "I love myself," and "I attract success." When negativity crept in, I countered it with positive affirmations.
The key to altering your situation, even amidst personal issues, is employing affirmations to redirect your thoughts. Whenever your mind veers into negativity, you hold the power to shift it back. Your thoughts determine your reality; your mind is potent. Hence, writing that document in 2015 initiated the journey, and 2016 provided the opportunities. I seized those opportunities without hesitation due to self-belief and determination. Even afterward, obstacles persisted—ongoing tests of my commitment towards achieving my aspirations.
So the universe presents distinct challenges at various stages to thoroughly assess whether the path you've embarked upon aligns with your genuine desires.
Let's delve into the strategy for addressing personal issues. Firstly, gaining clarity about your desires is crucial. Imagine elaborating on your ideal day in a comprehensive 10-page document. Be explicit about your income goals and your envisioned living situation. Dream without limitations; there's no fee for aspiring. Your dreams can extend as far as your imagination allows.
Initiate your dreams, harness the potency of your creativity, and explore your boundless capabilities on paper using your hand. This fosters a connection between your neurons and brain, unlike mere typing. This step is pivotal.
The subsequent step involves crafting affirmation statements to swiftly intercept any challenges. If you're encountering health issues, construct affirmative declarations. If necessary, seek existing examples online and customize them to suit your needs. These affirmations rewire your body and mind to resonate with good health. Envision yourself as vibrant, brimming with energy, and living a robust life well into your 90s or even past 100. Also, affirm your immunity's strength and other related factors.
For financial matters, tailor affirmations similarly. I offer a tool called the "Freedom Creed" to my community members, empowering them to recite these affirmations daily. This routine helps reprogram their minds when negativity surfaces.
Concerning matters of love, the principle remains consistent—embrace affirmations. To receive love, giving love is imperative. Actively bestow affection to start attracting it. I advise my students that community-building necessitates a profound love for people. It's not just about acquiring customers; it's about nurturing relationships. Authentic love evolves when one has undergone experiences like heartbreak or lack of affection.
Two types of individuals emerge from challenging situations: one withdraws into isolation, unable to reciprocate love, while the other discovers the hidden depths of affection within them. I've witnessed this phenomenon during my participation in events with my mentor. Exploring the core motivations behind actions often prompts breakthroughs. Some have recognized their latent potential due to suppressed affection that has remained dormant for years.
For me, the love that I had for my grandfather remains unchanged. I continue to hold that same affection for him. This love has been the inspiration, energy, and fuel behind everything I'm currently engaged in. It's due to the profound care, respect, and love he had for numerous individuals, as well as the respect he garnered from others due to his unwavering and relentless service to fellow human beings around him.
His care and concern for others have become a part of my own DNA. When I managed to establish a connection to the source of my values, everything in my life underwent a transformation. This change extended to my business as well. I am now constructing both my business and my community from that foundation of love - the same love that my grandfather instilled in me, and the love that my parents also shared.
I understand that some of you may have had differing experiences during your childhoods. If you didn't receive this kind of love during your early years, you can choose to reverse that pattern. You might decide that because you lacked this love in your past, you're committed to providing more of it now.
Human beings undergo diverse experiences, shaped by their pasts and current circumstances. By connecting the dots between these experiences, you can formulate a personal mission. Craft affirmations that draw upon the love within you, and this love will manifest in all your actions. This resonance will attract like-minded individuals who connect with your thoughts, enabling you to establish communities and your own tribe.
Remember, people buy from people and connect with people. Artificial intelligence (AI) serves many purposes, but it won't be making purchasing decisions from us. For addressing personal issues within your business, the process involves three steps: gaining clarity, transforming insights into affirmations, and taking actionable steps. The law of attraction only works when combined with the law of action.
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